Monthly Archives: November 2018

  1. FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    An interview with the creators of Phile Magazine: The International Journal of Desire and Curiosity

    For the edition of FKIN (A)rt Friday, we are lucky enough ot have an interview with the creators of the fascinating sex/art/culture magazine, Phile.

    They describe Phile as "a biannual journal exploring sexual subcultures, trends, and communities both obscure and well known from an overarching, sociological point of view."

    Phile Issue No. 3 Fall 2018 features Ana Benaroya, Andrew Griffiths, Annie Sprinkle, Ashkan Sepahv and Carlos Saez, D. Alex Pitagora, Ebecho Muslimova, Elizabeth Olear, Elizabeth Stephens, Fan Wu, Gregory Blunt, Huw Lemmey, Ion Birch, João Gabriel, Joseph Kadow, Julian DuFour, Lexi Minoa, Lindsay Dye, Mark Blower, Molly Matalon, Peaches, Prem Sahib, Robert Anthony O’Halloran, Robert Yang, Samantha Sutcliffe, Sholem Krishtalka, Sophia Larigakis, Valeria Herklotz, and Zack Kotzer. That’s a lot of culture! 

    The new issue of Phile is available to order online and shipping now to to cool art/book shops across North America and Europe. Go to to order and view a full list of stockists (bottom of the homepage).

    Now meet the creators of Phile. Images below are spreads from the new issue. ..

    Phile Magazine issues 3 2 and 1

    Some may consider Phile a fetish magazine, but you present its contents sans labels, as more of a buffet of interesting, unusual or just downright curious sexual practices for the pleasure and edification of your readers. Was this the original intention?

    Yes, that was always our intent. Since the subject of sexuality is so expansive and our desires are unique to each one of us, we wanted our content and the flow of the magazine to reflect that range. Our content is by and for everyone. Presenting writing and artwork from an overarching perspective is a crucial part of our practice and identity.

    Who are the people behind Phile and can you tell us a bit about the background of each? 

    The creators and Co-EICs of Phile are Mike Feswick and Erin Reznick. Mike is a multidisciplinary artist currently living in New York. His work explores desire, erotica and sexuality. As mentioned, he ran Up & Coming magazine and has worked in the sex industry in various ways for the past decade. Mike is the art director of Phile. 

    Erin is a producer and curator based between Toronto and Berlin. She has written for various magazines and has worked with an array of artists and musicians to create performances and cultural events around the world. Erin is the managing editor of Phile. 

    We also work closely with our designers Julia Troubetskaia and Tom van Ryzewyk who are also based in Toronto. They work collaboratively with us on the visual identity of Phile and create everything with us including the promotional posters, merchandise and the layout of the publication.

    Spread from Phile Issue No. 3 Fall 2018Spread from Phile Issue No. 3:  Left photo by Handcuffed. Right photo by PP LePoo.

    Spread from Phile Issue No. 3 Fall 2018Spread from Phile Issue No. 3: Carlos Saez - Human Appearance Optional

    How did Phile begin? As an idea? Collection of art you wanted people to see? Was there a manifesto? 

    We started Phile over two years ago after discussing the importance of sharing underrepresented stories. We wanted to create something that explored sexuality in a way that allows people to express themselves more freely. We consider Phile as an evolution of a previous project that Mike started in 2011 called Up & Coming. Up & Coming was a quarterly erotic pan-sexual magazine with the intention of showing various body types, genders and sexual practices. After becoming fast friends, we decided to start Phile as a larger, international publication that explores sexuality from an overarching perspective.

    Spread from Phile Issue No. 3 Fall 2018Spread from Phile Issue No. 3: Molly Matalon - Penny Pincher

    How do you cull and curate the art, content, writers for each issue? Is it a long process?

    The stories we share come from research, personal experience, conversations and submissions. Sometimes we think of a concept for a piece, commission the most appropriate writer and then think of a compatible artist to create work based on the writing. Sometimes the artwork comes first. In any case we commision people to create work based on their own personal experience. This keeps the content fresh and relevant, and allows our contributors to share their authentic stories.

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  • Hunky Husbands vs. Heteronormative Haters

    Hunky Husbands vs. Heteronormative Haters

    Big ol' hunks of burnin' love, Rick and Griff, are married, happy, and a voyeur's candy box, but get beyond the snapbacks and muscles and these babes in broland have something to say.

    Billing their Instagram page as "The misadventures and comedic stylings of two (often nude) husbands from Atlanta." The duo, who have and audience of over 270,000 Instagram followers, usually keep it cute and flirty. However, they recently reposted a photo from a year ago, along with a clear-eyed comeback to a hateful comment. Thanks to Queerty's Instagram feed for the tip.

    Rick and Griff

    Here's the full photo. Sweet, ain't it? View more of Rick and Griff @ick_and_the_griffopotamus

    Here's the post:

    A year ago when we posted this pic, someone made the presumptive comment “Wow! They’re in a monogamous relationship. Strange for gay men.” The commenter himself was gay.

    • We politely pointed out to him that the only facts about our relationship anyone can gather from this one picture is that we’re in the same room, we celebrate holidays, and are kissing. Whether we’re monogamous, monogam-ish, open, polyamorous, celibate or even asexual is not discernible, nor is it his business. We told him his comment not only insults gay men, but anyone out there who chooses a form of non-monogamy for their relationship. His response? “that’s why gay men can’t have real relationships, because they’re all sluts and can’t commit to one person.”

    • His comments illustrate a problem within gay culture: the need some gays have to adhere to heteronormative ideals and shun those who don’t. We’re all socialized to believe certain things about love, relationships and sex. We’re told that some relationships are “good,” “normal,” and “acceptable,” while others are deviant and unnatural. Heteronormativity goes further and assumes that queer people want to be just like straight people. It also rewards the gays who ‘mimic’ heteronormative standards. And why is this a “goal” to live up to? Are heterosexual, ‘monogamous’ relationships the gold standard of success?

    • This way of thinking also discriminates against folks in the sex industry, or who are into BDSM, have premarital or extramarital sex or sex for non-reproductive purposes, cross-generational partners, people who use sex toys… basically, everyone who has a sex life that heteronormative society considers “weird” or abnormal. It says only one way is “right,” and illegitimizes all others.

    • Bottom line: no relationship is the same or perfect, but all are valid as long as it works for the ones in them. The rules that work for one do not automatically work for another...but one sure way to fail at ANY type of relationship is to enter into it with rigid rules and bad communication and expect it not to crumble under pressure. Love is love, and everyone is free to find it on their own terms.

    Check the Instagram post to read the comments.



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  • VICE Predicts New Direction for Porn With Audio-Only Version

    VICE Predicts New Direction for Porn With Audio-Only Version

    Social Media Sites Such as Tumblr, Reddit Now Feature Wealth of Audio Erotica 

    AVN News editor MIchael French shares the highlights from a recent post on on Audio Erotica.

    AVN cover


    Social media sites that permit erotic content, such as Tumblr and Reddit, have become treasure troves of a newly popular genre of porn—audio-only porn, according to a report this week by the site, which describes the form as a “guilt-free route to orgasm that doesn’t come with a monthly subscription,” for people who still experience reservations or inhibitions about consuming porn in the more traditional way, visually. 

    “If you swoon over a good phone voice and like a bit of dirty talk, then audio porn is just the ticket,” writes journalist Megan Wallace, in the VICE article. “From audio clips of couples getting nasty, to longer erotic narratives, to ASMR, audio porn has no singular definition—as long as it’s sound-only.” 

    Wallace goes to reccommend her own favorite audio porn sources. 

    “It’s not necessarily a recent invention (I mean, let’s not forget that sex chatlines are a thing) but the way that its spread across pockets of the internet feels fresh, exciting and full of promise,” Wallace writes. “Springing up a couple of years ago across platforms like Tumblr and Reddit, audio-only porn has fostered a vibrant online community.” 

    She goes on to point readers to the Tumblr page Audible Porn, as well as the Reddit forums Pillow Talk Audio,  and Gone Wild Audio.  

    Among the descriptions of audio erotica files in the latter forum: Cosplay Cutie Hidden Slut, Humiliation for Pleasure, A Little Pressure [prostate massage], and Hey Babe, Wanna Fuck my Mom?  

    “Working on a submissions basis, these pages are fed X-rated sound bytes by followers who generously share their own intimate moments, as well as listening to others’,” Wallace explains. “It’s a community-driven genre where there’s currently no money at stake: just genuine sexual enthusiasm.” 

    Though Wallace and er interview subjects praises audio porn for “the way it democratizes porn-making, “ she also predicts that it won’t be long before the for-profit adult industry catches to what remains currently an internet underground phenomenon. 

    “There’s little doubt that the big boys of porn will soon find some way to get in on the action, we can only hope that these tight-knit communities will find a way to weather the storm and keep audio porn’s indie spirit alive,” Wallace writes.

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  • PrEP and U=U: Two Sides of the Same Bed

    PrEP and U=U: Two Sides of the Same Bed

    This great post titled "Two Sides of the Same Bed," from smart UK blog Mainly Male, looks at how HIV prevention is handled with PREP in an HIV+/HIV- relationship.

    Jason and Hans frank and honest conversation is both frank and informative.

    “I sometimes lied about my status when a hook-up asked, because I feared rejection. I told them that I was ‘negative’ but wanted to use a condom.” – Hans

    “Once negative people are on PrEP they may not think about their partner’s status at all. After I started daily PrEP in 2015 I saw no need to talk about HIV with partners, unless they wanted to.” – Jason

    For guys--or anyone, honestly--who are in or worry about how the dynamic of a relatshionship could change in a similar situation, the short post is well worth taking the the time to read.

    Interview posted by Jason Domino. Photos by Matt Spike.

    Two Sides of the Same Bed - Mainly Male

    Read the full post on



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  • Perfect Fit Brand Gets 2019 XBIZ Award Nomination

    Perfect Fit Brand Gets 2019 XBIZ Award Nomination

    Perfect Fit Brand is pleased to announce that C.E.O. Steve Callow has been named a nominee for the adult industry’s most prestigious career awards program, the 2019 XBIZ Exec Awards, coinciding with the XBIZ 2019 trade show set for Jan. 14-18.  

    Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow with XBIZ 2018 "LGBT Pleasure Products Company of the Year" Award
    Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow with XBIZ 2018 "LGBT Pleasure Products Company of the Year" Award

    C.E.O. Steve Callow has been nominated for the award category Businessman of the Year.  

    Nominees were selected based on several factors including leadership, business acumen, community influence and overall career success as submitted by industry members via the adult industry social network 

    Of the nomination, Callow says, “Since day one, Perfect Fit Brand has been committed to enhancing the sex lives of customer across the sexuality spectrum with the most innovative, unique, yet always user-friendly products. As both C.E.O and inventor at Perfect Fit Brand, I take the nomination very seriously and truly appreciate the recognition it bring to our company.” 

    The XBIZ Exec Awards spotlight outstanding business leaders who play key roles in the success of progressive brands. The award categories cover a range of positions that make up the organizational chart of leading enterprises, covering business development, marketing, management and more. 

    To be held at the Andaz Hotel on West Hollywood’s famed Sunset Strip, the XBIZ Exec Awards will be presented at an exclusive awards ceremony during XBIZ 2019.  

    See the complete list of 2019 XBIZ Exec Awards Retail Nominees at 

    For more information about XBIZ 2019, visit  



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  • The Art of Stroking

    The Art of Stroking

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator, is, you guessed it...a Perfect Fit!

    With an eye toward holiday shopping, Perfect Fit Brand presents their latest gift to men, The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator. 

    “We named it so because we feel that this innovative new toy truly does fit perfectly,” says inventor and Perfect Fit Brand CEO, Steve Callow. 

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator w/ Grips

    “This unique masturbator features our proven ribs and nubs design from our Fat Boy line,” says Callow, “but with a larger opening and thicker wall construction to provide a wonderful feeling of “tightness” without needing to be squeezed with your hand.” 

    There are two models, one with “with grips” (handles) and one without, both made from Perfect Fit Brand’s proprietary, super silky feeling SilaSkin™. 

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator w/ GripsAbove: The Perfect Fit Brand Male Masturbator with Grips.

    The model “with grips” is a fat round cylinder that has been molded to include handles on both sides of the toy to insure a controlled grip—perfect for times when the lube gets on the outside of the toy. 

    The model without handles is an octagonally shaped cylinder. 

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator no GripsAbove: Perfect Fit Brand Male Masturbator without grips.

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  • How to Get Enough Physical Affection if You’re Single

    How to Get Enough Physical Affection if You’re Single

    A recent cartoon series on The New Yorker website put a funny spin on the sad reality that many of us are contact starved. Enough has been writtten about the myriad benefits of positive physical contact, from spooning with your honey to a hug, an arm around your buddy's shoulders or just silently holding hands and enjoying a walk in the park. So, a little levity for you on election day.

    How to Get Enough Physical Affection if You’re Single

    Above is the full image from the homepage teaser cartoon and below, another particularly funny one. See the series at

    New Yorker Physical Affection


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  • FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    Meet Leonor Fini, Argentinian artist known for her depictions of powerful women

    For those lucky enought to live in or be visiting the New York City area, check out the new Leonor Fini exhibiton at the city's Museum of Sex.

    Titled "Leonor Fini: Theater of Desire, 1930-1990" and running September 28, 2018 – March 4, 2019, the exhibiton contains pantings, designs and illustrations by the prolific artist.

    Leonor Fini - Museum of Sex exhibitionLeonor Fini - Museum of Sex exhibition

    “I always imagined that I would have a life very different than the one imagined for me, but I understood from a very early age that I would have to revolt in order to make that life.” – Leonor Fini

    From the Museum of Sex webpage on the exhibition:

    The Museum of Sex (MoSEX) presents Leonor Fini: Theatre of Desire, 1930-1990, the first American museum survey of the work of Argentine-Italian artist Leonor Fini (b. 1907, Buenos Aires, Argentina–d. 1996, Paris, France). The exhibition will immerse visitors in Leonor Fini’s life and career from the 1930s to the 1980s. Although Fini exhibited in major Surrealist surveys throughout the 1930s and 40s, and counted Max Ernst and Salvador Dalí as friends, she rejected the invitation to officially join the group, disavowing movement leader André Breton’s traditional view of woman as muse.

    Le carrefour d’hecate, 1977-78Le carrefour d’hecate, 1977-78

    Multi-talented and fearlessly forward thinking, she refused to be categorized in any way, especially through gender norms. Her art explored the masculine and feminine, dominance and submission, eroticism and humor. She also went beyond the medium of painting to embrace theatre, ballet, the illustrated book and costume. She not only rejected tradition and social conventions, she insisted that identity, like artistic expression, is never fixed – it must constantly be open to inspiration and imagination.    

    Leonor Fini  Les Aveugles, 1968Leonor Fini  Les Aveugles, 1968

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  • When Good Sex Begets Bad Sex

    When Good Sex Begets Bad Sex

    In case you missed it, the fourth single from electroduo Fisherspooner's album "SIR"--"TopBrazil," originally released back in January, is about "the dark side of sexual compulsion and the internet."

    Fischerspooner SIR

    Left, "SIR" album cover. Right, "SIR" album cover as displayed at the album premiere at The Guggenheim Museum in April 2018.

    "Specifically," says Casey Fischer, "it’s about an experience I had in Rome with a super hot Roman college student who snuck me into his home while his parents were sleeping and we had this amazing awesome epic incredible illicit night of sex."

    "And the next day I got greedy and thirsty and hungry and I wanted it again, but with another person. So I went and I hooked up with this guy and his profile name was TopBrazil—and it was a nightmare."

    "He was an awful person, he was weird and awkward and rude. The whole experience was terrible. I don’t know why I stayed and I don’t know why I went through with it."

    "SIR" was produced by Spooner's boyfriend, Michael Stipe of REM. The album, which celebrates sex, queerdom and old school gay decadence, was written for Spooner's "queer family and our special kind of love" and a "statement against the current anti-gay Neo-nazi presidency."

    Casey Spooner and Michael Stipe by Hans Neumann

    Casey Spooner and Michael Stipe by Hans Neumann

    Previous "SIR"  singles include "Have Fun Tonight" and "Togetherness," the video's for which are below.



    #fischerspooner #badsex #topbrazil

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  • XBiz Awards: 2016 Male Pleasure Products Company of the Year and 13 Nominations
    AVN Awards: 10 Nominations
    Storerotica: 3 Nominations