Monthly Archives: November 2018

  1. Hunky Husbands vs. Heteronormative Haters

    Hunky Husbands vs. Heteronormative Haters

    Big ol' hunks of burnin' love, Rick and Griff, are married, happy, and a voyeur's candy box, but get beyond the snapbacks and muscles and these babes in broland have something to say.

    Billing their Instagram page as "The misadventures and comedic stylings of two (often nude) husbands from Atlanta." The duo, who have and audience of over 270,000 Instagram followers, usually keep it cute and flirty. However, they recently reposted a photo from a year ago, along with a clear-eyed comeback to a hateful comment. Thanks to Queerty's Instagram feed for the tip.

    Rick and Griff

    Here's the full photo. Sweet, ain't it? View more of Rick and Griff @ick_and_the_griffopotamus

    Here's the post:

    A year ago when we posted this pic, someone made the presumptive comment “Wow! They’re in a monogamous relationship. Strange for gay men.” The commenter himself was gay.

    • We politely pointed out to him that the only facts about our relationship anyone can gather from this one picture is that we’re in the same room, we celebrate holidays, and are kissing. Whether we’re monogamous, monogam-ish, open, polyamorous, celibate or even asexual is not discernible, nor is it his business. We told him his comment not only insults gay men, but anyone out there who chooses a form of non-monogamy for their relationship. His response? “that’s why gay men can’t have real relationships, because they’re all sluts and can’t commit to one person.”

    • His comments illustrate a problem within gay culture: the need some gays have to adhere to heteronormative ideals and shun those who don’t. We’re all socialized to believe certain things about love, relationships and sex. We’re told that some relationships are “good,” “normal,” and “acceptable,” while others are deviant and unnatural. Heteronormativity goes further and assumes that queer people want to be just like straight people. It also rewards the gays who ‘mimic’ heteronormative standards. And why is this a “goal” to live up to? Are heterosexual, ‘monogamous’ relationships the gold standard of success?

    • This way of thinking also discriminates against folks in the sex industry, or who are into BDSM, have premarital or extramarital sex or sex for non-reproductive purposes, cross-generational partners, people who use sex toys… basically, everyone who has a sex life that heteronormative society considers “weird” or abnormal. It says only one way is “right,” and illegitimizes all others.

    • Bottom line: no relationship is the same or perfect, but all are valid as long as it works for the ones in them. The rules that work for one do not automatically work for another...but one sure way to fail at ANY type of relationship is to enter into it with rigid rules and bad communication and expect it not to crumble under pressure. Love is love, and everyone is free to find it on their own terms.

    Check the Instagram post to read the comments.



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  2. VICE Predicts New Direction for Porn With Audio-Only Version

    VICE Predicts New Direction for Porn With Audio-Only Version

    Social Media Sites Such as Tumblr, Reddit Now Feature Wealth of Audio Erotica 

    AVN News editor MIchael French shares the highlights from a recent post on on Audio Erotica.

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    Social media sites that permit erotic content, such as Tumblr and Reddit, have become treasure troves of a newly popular genre of porn—audio-only porn, according to a report this week by the site, which describes the form as a “guilt-free route to orgasm that doesn’t come with a monthly subscription,” for people who still experience reservations or inhibitions about consuming porn in the more traditional way, visually. 

    “If you swoon over a good phone voice and like a bit of dirty talk, then audio porn is just the ticket,” writes journalist Megan Wallace, in the VICE article. “From audio clips of couples getting nasty, to longer erotic narratives, to ASMR, audio porn has no singular definition—as long as it’s sound-only.” 

    Wallace goes to reccommend her own favorite audio porn sources. 

    “It’s not necessarily a recent invention (I mean, let’s not forget that sex chatlines are a thing) but the way that its spread across pockets of the internet feels fresh, exciting and full of promise,” Wallace writes. “Springing up a couple of years ago across platforms like Tumblr and Reddit, audio-only porn has fostered a vibrant online community.” 

    She goes on to point readers to the Tumblr page Audible Porn, as well as the Reddit forums Pillow Talk Audio,  and Gone Wild Audio.  

    xxx audio porn

    Among the descriptions of audio erotica files in the latter forum: Cosplay Cutie Hidden Slut, Humiliation for Pleasure, A Little Pressure [prostate massage], and Hey Babe, Wanna Fuck my Mom?  

    “Working on a submissions basis, these pages are fed X-rated sound bytes by followers who generously share their own intimate moments, as well as listening to others’,” Wallace explains. “It’s a community-driven genre where there’s currently no money at stake: just genuine sexual enthusiasm.” 

    Though Wallace and er interview subjects praises audio porn for “the way it democratizes porn-making, “ she also predicts that it won’t be long before the for-profit adult industry catches to what remains currently an internet underground phenomenon. 

    “There’s little doubt that the big boys of porn will soon find some way to get in on the action, we can only hope that these tight-knit communities will find a way to weather the storm and keep audio porn’s indie spirit alive,” Wallace writes.

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  3. PrEP and U=U: Two Sides of the Same Bed

    PrEP and U=U: Two Sides of the Same Bed

    This great post titled "Two Sides of the Same Bed," from smart UK blog Mainly Male, looks at how HIV prevention is handled with PREP in an HIV+/HIV- relationship.

    Jason and Hans frank and honest conversation is both frank and informative.

    “I sometimes lied about my status when a hook-up asked, because I feared rejection. I told them that I was ‘negative’ but wanted to use a condom.” – Hans

    “Once negative people are on PrEP they may not think about their partner’s status at all. After I started daily PrEP in 2015 I saw no need to talk about HIV with partners, unless they wanted to.” – Jason

    For guys--or anyone, honestly--who are in or worry about how the dynamic of a relatshionship could change in a similar situation, the short post is well worth taking the the time to read.

    Interview posted by Jason Domino. Photos by Matt Spike.

    Two Sides of the Same Bed - Mainly Male



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  4. Perfect Fit Brand Gets 2019 XBIZ Award Nomination

    Perfect Fit Brand Gets 2019 XBIZ Award Nomination

    Perfect Fit Brand is pleased to announce that C.E.O. Steve Callow has been named a nominee for the adult industry’s most prestigious career awards program, the 2019 XBIZ Exec Awards, coinciding with the XBIZ 2019 trade show set for Jan. 14-18.  

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    Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow with XBIZ 2018 "LGBT Pleasure Products Company of the Year" Award

    C.E.O. Steve Callow has been nominated for the award category Businessman of the Year.  

    Nominees were selected based on several factors including leadership, business acumen, community influence and overall career success as submitted by industry members via the adult industry social network 

    Of the nomination, Callow says, “Since day one, Perfect Fit Brand has been committed to enhancing the sex lives of customer across the sexuality spectrum with the most innovative, unique, yet always user-friendly products. As both C.E.O and inventor at Perfect Fit Brand, I take the nomination very seriously and truly appreciate the recognition it bring to our company.” 

    The XBIZ Exec Awards spotlight outstanding business leaders who play key roles in the success of progressive brands. The award categories cover a range of positions that make up the organizational chart of leading enterprises, covering business development, marketing, management and more. 

    To be held at the Andaz Hotel on West Hollywood’s famed Sunset Strip, the XBIZ Exec Awards will be presented at an exclusive awards ceremony during XBIZ 2019.  

    See the complete list of 2019 XBIZ Exec Awards Retail Nominees at 

    For more information about XBIZ 2019, visit  



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  5. The Art of Stroking

    The Art of Stroking

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator, is, you guessed it...a Perfect Fit!

    With an eye toward holiday shopping, Perfect Fit Brand presents their latest gift to men, The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator. 

    “We named it so because we feel that this innovative new toy truly does fit perfectly,” says inventor and Perfect Fit Brand CEO, Steve Callow. 

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator w/ Grips

    “This unique masturbator features our proven ribs and nubs design from our Fat Boy line,” says Callow, “but with a larger opening and thicker wall construction to provide a wonderful feeling of “tightness” without needing to be squeezed with your hand.” 

    There are two models, one with “with grips” (handles) and one without, both made from Perfect Fit Brand’s proprietary, super silky feeling SilaSkin™. 

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator w/ GripsAbove: The Perfect Fit Brand Male Masturbator with Grips.

    The model “with grips” is a fat round cylinder that has been molded to include handles on both sides of the toy to insure a controlled grip—perfect for times when the lube gets on the outside of the toy. 

    The model without handles is an octagonally shaped cylinder. 

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator no GripsAbove: Perfect Fit Brand Male Masturbator without grips.

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  6. How to Get Enough Physical Affection if You’re Single

    How to Get Enough Physical Affection if You’re Single

    A recent cartoon series on The New Yorker website put a funny spin on the sad reality that many of us are contact starved. Enough has been writtten about the myriad benefits of positive physical contact, from spooning with your honey to a hug, an arm around your buddy's shoulders or just silently holding hands and enjoying a walk in the park. So, a little levity for you on election day.

    How to Get Enough Physical Affection if You’re Single

    Above is the full image from the homepage teaser cartoon and below, another particularly funny one. See the series at

    New Yorker Physical Affection


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