Monthly Archives: April 2018

  1. How many of these labels apply to you?

    How many of these labels apply to you?

    “The identification and acceptance of words that fit a person's experience can help them feel understood and know that they are not alone,” says Elizabeth Watt, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Bellingham, Washington."

    Sexuality. It's complicated, but thanks to Women's Health magazine, there's no fear of an awkward "who knew" moment looming in your casual conversation future.

    Sex & Love writer Kristin Canning recently put together a handy glossary of 22 sexuality terms with the help of Watt (quoted above in the article) and The Human Rights Campaign, It's Pronounced Metrosexual, and the UC Davis LGBTQIA Resouce Center.

    Read "Polyamorous, Aromantic, Demisexual—And 19 Other Sexuality Terms You Really Need To Know", presented as a slideshow. here.


    #sexuality #LGBTQQIA #HRC @WomensHealthMag

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  2. 6 WOW (Words of Wisdom) For Great (Gay) Sex

    6 WOW (Words of Wisdom) For Great (Gay) Sex

    On the hightop heels of his YouTube series "6 Gym/Diet Hacks for Better Sex" New York City hunk, personal trainer and all around sweetie Branden Hayward brings you some solid advice for great sex.

    While Hayward delivers his how-to video series assistance of his alter ego drag queen trainer Wanda, here, looking rather fetching in white sheets and briefs, he bares (almost) all to share some wisdom on guaranteeing yourself the sex you deserve.  

    Branden Hayward by Matt Hopkins

    1. When you have sex, you are giving a gift. You are also receiving a gift. Treat it, and expect to be treated, accordingly.  

    Branden Hayward by Matt Hopkins

    2. Surround yourself with sex-positive, open-minded people of various backgrounds. This will give you the opportunity to honestly discuss what is and isn’t working in your sex life, away from the judgment or narrow mindedness you may have grown up around. You can begin to find your sexual “North Star” this way.  

    Branden Hayward by Matt Hopkins

    3. As you figure out what you like, find a diplomatic but clear way to express it to potential partners, also asking them what they are looking for. This will save time and spare stress. Don’t ever be ashamed of your preferences just because they are too ______ (kinky, vanilla, etc.) for someone else. Sex should feel amazing, and that can only happen if you’re enjoying it.  

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  3. Perfect Fit Brand is Official Sponsor of The Black Party Photo Booth

    Perfect Fit Brand is Official Sponsor of The Black Party Photo Booth

    Rites XXXIX: The Black Party® 2018 "PIGTOPIA: I Want to Break Free" is this weekend. Perfect Fit Brand is the offical sponsor of the Black Party Photo booth. 

    For those who are not famiilar, The Black Party is the daddy of all gay fetish balls. With guests jetting in from across the country to around the world, it is one seriously fun party. Extreme decor by this year's Creative Director international queer artist Gio Black Peter and music by the world's best DJs make this the ultimate galthering of the leather/fetish tribe.


    The parties have always been heavily themed. Last year's theme was "Dark Matter," , set in trippy alternate fetish universe. The previous year it was "Submerged," set in a submarine world of brothels, dungeons and decadence lorded over by maritime pirates.

    This year's theme "PIGTOPIA: I Want to Break Free," is perhaps one of the most twisted yet, and described by the creative director as, "set in a new animal Eden, where pleasure becomes a weapon and an act of defiance against forces threatening to take away our freedom. Through peepholes looking in, we glimpse scenes of a happy hedonistic queer Americana."

    The Black Party is clearly not for everyone and frankly, the produces don't give AF. Seriously. There is no press list. Cameras and phones are forbidden; secrecy and respect for ones right to fly his/her/their freak flag without some fool dishing it on social media is foremost.

    But for those to whom The Black Party® is the culmination of a year's patient anticipation (and shopping), it is everything. So, get your lewk together, cause this is one party that doesn't play, when it comes to playing.

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