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  1. Interview with a Dominatrix

    Interview with a Dominatrix

    Meet Domina Lyra, transatlantic Dionysian priestess, artist and sadomasochist

    All photos courtesy of Lyra Lethe.

    Lyra Lethe

    Last October at the Sex Expo at the Brooklyn Expo Center there was a constant parade of interesting people of every size, color, age, and interest. From those who didn't know a cockring from a scrunchie to those who knew exactly what time it was.

    One of the most interesting people to swing by the Perfect Fit Brand table was New York based transatlantic dominatrix, Lyra Lethe, who snapped up (literally) one of our Zoro™ one-piece strap-on dildos and left her calling card.

    In going through cards and checking out Instagram accounts the next day, it was clear that this was one fascinating woman. So, herewith, an interview with Mistress Lyra Lethe.

    Domina Lyra

    First question: What shall I call you in the article? Lyra Lethe? Domina Lyra? And I assume the first is a pseudonym, so what’s the story behind it?

    You may call me either, and I'm glad you asked about my name—I don't get that question often. I came up with it before I can remember to represent a dark, heroic aspect of myself that I dreamed of becoming. Lyra is the harp created by the god Hermes and given to Orpheus, who played so beautifully that gods wept, monsters were lulled to sleep, and he was allowed to make a rare journey to the underworld and back. After he died, having been torn apart by maenads, his lyre was placed in the night sky for eternity. Lethe is the river of forgetfulness, which flows through Hypnos' cave in Hades. Most of the dead drink its water and lose the memories of their past lives, but the few who resist and remember their true origins have a chance to become divine.

    Lyra Lethe

    Why did you become a dominatrix?

    It began with a longing for another realm. I have always been drawn to power play, transgression and mystery. From early on, I remember searching for a door to the otherworld, certain that I was destined for a more adventurous existence. When I first had access to the internet, I joined occult forums and saw references to dominatrices and sadomasochistic rituals.

    In college, a boy began addressing me as “Mistress” without explanation and another, “Your Excellency”. I started talking to a lifestyle domme from one of my forums. I was studying ancient texts and she was interested in what I was reading and writing. She encouraged me to explore BDSM, but I was pursuing other things and it would be years before I did. Still, it remained a strong interest and I found myself thinking about it often. I admired that world from afar and I finally came to it when I was ready.

    I became a dominatrix because there could be no other way; it is the fullest expression of who I am in all my aspects. I am an artist, a scholar, a poet, and a priestess. I am a tormentress and healer, captor and liberator, avenger and protector, judge and absolver, devil and god I can finally access and guide others through the other realms that have always called me. I believe it was fate.

    @LyraLethe Instagram

    How did you learn the ropes (pun intended)?

    I first started exploring when I was living in Chicago, which had a very welcoming BDSM community. I attended munches and play parties and learned as a switch. The first time I set foot in a dungeon, it was noted that I seemed right at home in the leather swing. And I jumped right in, submitting to fire, rope, and knife play. For me, the experience of submission was initiatory. Both the positive and negative experiences I had during that time taught me lessons about communication, consent, trust, and compassion that have stayed with me as a domme. Actually, rope bondage is among my weakest skills, not for lack of trying but because I love it so much I have always ended up in it. Some of my first friends in the scene were riggers who suspended me and created meditative puzzles for me to escape.

    During graduate school, I started working under the instruction of a professional Mistress and learned by doing sessions with her until I was ready to develop my own practice. I have been fortunate enough to study with one of my most-admired dominatrices, Simone Justice, and to attend DomCon where I took classes with other such legends. I continue to learn all the time through the process of sessioning and forming relationships with those who submit to me.

    Domina Lyra

    You clearly enjoy the work. Do you consider it work? What do you get out of it other than gifts and cash? Or does that matter? Would you do it for free? 

    I enjoy what I do very much and it is absolutely work. Domination is in my nature and it will always be part of my life. I have invested a great deal into it, financially and emotionally, and making it my profession allows me to continue to do so. The expenses—which include specialized equipment, wardrobe, advertising, travel, and dungeon rental—are high, and I devote a great deal of time and energy each week to administrative work as well as to planning each session. I pay self-employment taxes and am responsible for my own insurance, retirement plan, etc. while navigating all the uncertainty of working under criminalization and increasing censorship.

    That said, I am privileged enough to be selective in whom I engage with, and I feel fulfilled by my work on numerous levels, in the ways that I continue to grow and help others grow. I do have personal devotees and subs who serve me beyond the limits of a traditional session, for example by performing labor in my studio or serving as creative muses. The relationships I have formed vary but transcend transactional exchange and even BDSM.

    Domina Lyra

    From checking out your social media, you appear to travel often to London. Do you also practice (is that the word?) in London as well as New York?

    Yes, I travel to London several times a year. London has a great BDSM scene and I am cultivating a following there and elsewhere in Europe.

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  2. WATCH: Perfect Fit Brand is Executive Producer of New Baby Yors Video

    WATCH: Perfect Fit Brand is Executive Producer of New Baby Yors Video

    Photography: Rachel Brennecke

    Something different. Perfect Fit Brand, along with Marco Palou and Chronos Cinema and Prose Productions, is the Executive Producer of "Bad Influence," the newest video by queer New York City artist Baby Yors.

    Not only are we nicely featured in the credits, but the video features a bevy of Perfect Fit Brand toys. Pretty cool.

    Baby Yors by Rachel Brennecke

    Beautifully lit, shot and we hope, properly pampered, making a fistful of cameo appearances were our Amour Tug Lock and Ribbed Ring (below), Cock Armour, Play Zone Kit, and Rook Plug. 

    Baby Yors Perfect Fit Brand Cock Armour Tug Ribbed Ring

    More about the video in this story on OUT.com, which also gave Perfect Fit Brand a nice...plug. Read more about the fascinating Argentinian Baby Yors here.

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  3. CEO Steve Callow talks to AskMen.com about...

    CEO Steve Callow talks to AskMen.com about...

    This week, Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow, along with Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, talked to sex and relationships writer Bobby Box for AskMen.com about the sex toys that men are or aren't buying.

    Good news, men are getting hip to the benefits of text toys (eye-rolling, shuddering, call-the-cops orgasms). Bad news, they're still a bit shy about it. We say, "Bro, you don't know what you're missing!"

    Screenshot of the AskMen post is below. Read the full post on AskMen.com.

    The Male Sex Toys That Men Are (and Aren’t) Buying in 2019 - AskMen.com

    Peruse the Perfect Fit Brand catalog of innovative, very cool looking, and life-changing sex toys at www.perfectfitbrand.com or just tap the logo up top.

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  4. FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    Step into the surreal, erotic world of Australian painter Ross Watson

    Art throughout has been posted with permission of the Ross Watson Gallery.

    If you were in New York City for World PrideNYC 2019, perhaps you were lucky enough to discover the glorious, highly detailed, homoerotic art of Australian painter Ross Watson. If not, you're in luck. Read on.

    The Gaze of Adonis by Ross Watson

    Above: The Gaze of Adonis by Ross Watson

    Jason, Alpine Cricket by Ross Watson

    Above: Jason, Alpine Cricket by Ross Watson

    Two Life Guards by Ross Watson

    Above: Two Life Guards by Ross Watson

    The single official visual arts event of WorldPrideNYC, his exhibition, “homines uniformis” and book launch for “Untitled II” at Rogue Space | Chelsea, adjacent to the High Line, was Watson’s first solo show in NYC in his 40 year career, after sold out exhibitions in Los Angles, London, Berlin, Toronto, Sydney and Melbourne.

    Above: Waston anticipating his WorldPrideNYC show and below. Watch the Eyewitness News ABC-7 New York inteview with Ross Watson at the Rogue Space Chelsea here.

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  5. Heading to the Folsom Street Fair? Our CEO Steve Callow says, “Let it whip, baby!!”

    Heading to the Folsom Street Fair? Our CEO Steve Callow says, “Let it whip, baby!!”

    Steve Callow get his boots shined at Folsom 2017

    Above: Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow gets his boots shined by Everett at the Folsom Street Fair 2017.

    Just a  quick shout out from our CEO Steve Callow to our customers and friends heading to San Franciso this Sunday for the infamous, outrageous San Francisco fetish celebration, The Folsom Street Fair, where Perfect Fit Brand is once again happily a Premiere Sponsor:

    “We wish everyone at Folsom a frisky, fun and festive day and are so proud to sponsor this event that so enthusiastically celebrates diversity in sexuality, gender and self-expression. Let it whip, baby!"

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  6. The AIDS Memorial: Stories of Love, Loss & Remembrance

    The AIDS Memorial: Stories of Love, Loss & Remembrance

    The story of porn star Eric Stryker, is just one of hundreds on The AIDS Memorial Instagram page @theaidsmemorial an archive of poignant and important personal of those who died of HIV and AIDS.

    The AIDS Memorial Instagram

    We are lucky enough to live in the era of "U = U" or Undetectable + Untransmittable," thanks to the innovation of antiretroviral therapy (ART) and pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), when those who are HIV+ can now safely have sex without fear of transmitting the virus to their partners.

    Below is Eric Stryker's story, lifted from @theaidsmemorial, but please go to the Instagram page, scroll, read, remember.

    "Michael Skrzypcak aka Eric Stryker (September 24, 1954 – February 19, 1988) was a gay adult film performer who died of AIDS in California. He was 33 years old.

    Eric Stryker

    Born in Erie, Pennsylvania, Skrzypcak served in the US Air Force, rising to the rank of Sergeant. After retiring, he worked as a construction worker in Phoenix and then relocated to Los Angeles and began modeling for Colt Studios.

    In 1984, just after his lover died from AIDS, Skrzypcak was diagnosed with HIV. He became an AIDS activist and continued studying at @woodbury_university. Skrzypcak also worked with the AIDS Couples Group and lectured around America for AIDS Project Los Angeles. In 1987, Skrzypcak appeared in the @pbs documentary, ‘It Starts With A’ — his last film appearance.

    In his last public appearance, his body disfigured with Kaposi's sarcoma, Skrzypcak marched in the Christopher Street parade in West Hollywood. However not long after, on February 1988, he succumbed to AIDS at Sherman Oaks Community Hospital."@theaidsmemorial

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  7. Legendary Sex Columnist Comes to Perfect Fit for Cock Ring Advice

    Legendary Sex Columnist  Comes to Perfect Fit for Cock Ring Advice

    Anka Radakovitch Asks
    "What’s up with the new penis rings down there?"

    Legendary sex columnist Anka Radakovitch came to Perfect Fit Brand's CEO Steve Callow for some cock ring advice for a recent column on Sexpert.com. A teaser from the post is below. Read the full article here.

    Play Zone Kit by Perfect Fit Brand

    The Play Zone Kit by Perfect Fit Brand

    Cock rings are a favorite gay boy’s sex toy, but most straight women have no idea how these things work. Where do we begin?

    Since I don’t have a penis, I asked Steve Callow, founder of Arousal Rings brand, Perfect Fit, what’s up with the new penis rings down there.

    “We made the Play Zone Kit so it can be fun for a couple to experiment,” he says. The cock ring, now called an “arousal ring“, can be used in many ways on a guy’s junk. “How a ring is worn depends on the ring size, your equipment and the desired effect,” he says. The silicone ring is made in 14 sizes. We define Arousal Rings as a category containing three basic types of rings: The two most common ways to wear a ring is on the shaft, often called “penis rings” and then the other is around the base of the penis and scrotum (yup it goes under the scrotum and around everything), we often call these “cock rings.”...continue reading here.  

    Play Zone Kit by Perfect Fit BrandThe Play Zone Kit by Perfect Fit Brand

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  8. Good News Men! Vice.com Says You're Actually Bigger Than You Think You Are!

    Good News Men! Vice.com Says You're Actually Bigger Than You Think You Are!

    As Perfect Fit Brand has finessed the art of measuring the perfect size cock ring to a science (more on this soon), a recent post on Vice blog Tonic on how to measure a penis caught our eye.

    In the article titled, "There’s Only One Correct Way to Measure a Penis," popular author Grant Stoddard (google him, the man is everywhere!), reveals, "...the majority of men who obsess over having a penis they perceive as being too small, are well within the actual average range."

    Stoddard proceed to break down how to measure for length and girth and to pass on an interesting anecdote about the effect of oral sex on size.

    Read the full article here.

    Play Zone Kit with Xact-Fit Cock Ring System

    And now that your feeling yourself thank's to Stoddards' advice, let's get you fit with the right size cock ring. Check out our Play Zone Kit--9 Xact-Fit Rings on a mini orange traffic cone. Measured in increments of 0.1" (2.5mm), you're guaranteed to find your...Perfect Fit. More here.

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  9. FKIN A(rt) FRIDAY

    FKIN A(rt) FRIDAY

    Meet randy, snarky, 18th century pop star painter, William Hogarth 

    Sometime we think back in ye days of olde, everyone was buttoned up and as stuffy as an 8th grade required reading classic. But, dig, sniff, paw around or just expand your reading list or get your butt to a museum, and it is abundantly evident that our fascination with sex has been a fact of life since Eve waved that apple in Adam's face.

    Self-Portrait by Hogarth, ca. 1735, Yale Center for British Art.
    Self-Portrait by Hogarth, ca. 1735, Yale Center for British Art.

    Meet 18th century painter, Wiliam Hogarth (1697-1764), an English painter, printmaker, pictorial satirist, social critic, and editorial cartoonist. Prolific, his most successful works where those in which he was poking fun at the upper classes as they were portrayed by in the works of contemporary painters like Jean-Antoine Watteau, François Boucher and Jean-Honoré Fragonard.

    During the 1730s British painter William Hogarth produced three versions of a series showing a young couple before and after a sexual encounter. Engraved print versions of this series were extremently popular, partically becuase they references current affairs and "celebrities; he sold over 1200 prints.

    "Hogarth’s Before and After series parodied fashionable fête galante* subjects by Antoine Watteau and others French artists, as well as modern high-life subjects by Jean-François du Troy. Such works often show a nobleman making elegant protestations of love to a lady."Tate.org

    William Hogarth "Before"

    William Hogarth, "Before", 1730-1.

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  10. Why Tiny Dicks Might Come Back Into Fashion – Vice

    Why Tiny Dicks Might Come Back Into Fashion – Vice

    Perusing Vice, up popped "Why Tiny Dicks Might Come Back Into Fashion," a fascinating article by writer Mark Hay.

    From why the Greeks preferred more, uh, discreet penises on their gorgeous god statues to the cultural evolution to the glorification of the huge cock, lots to learn and share over a good, wait for it, cock...tail.

    One screenshot and a snippet, below, followed by a link to read the full article on Vice.com

    Why Tiny Dicks Might Come Back Into Fashion

    "No culture, the experts I’ve spoken to said, seems to have been as directly enamored with small penises as the Ancient Greeks. (Counterexamples in Eastern, African, and Indigenous art that feature highly stylized or exaggerated visible genitalia can be found in works like Japanese Shunga prints, Kongo fertility statues, and Peruvian Moche pots, respectively.) Romans and other Western cultures just ran with Greek sculptural tropes, or downplayed dicks in tandem with Christian conservatism. The Romans, ardent followers of the Greeks in many ways, laughed at Priapus and chiseled little chubbies onto their statues in one breath, but in another exalted enormous erections as signs of manliness. David M. Friedman, in his cultural history of the penis A Mind of Its Own, noted that Roman generals at times promoted soldiers based on the size of their genitals. In private, some Romans apparently saw the sexual appeal of a prodigious penis: “There is some indication,” noted Ormand, “that there were male prostitutes in Rome who were prized for the size of their genitalia.”

    Read the full "Why Tiny Dicks Might Come Back Into Fashion" here.

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