1. No, I’m Not Gay, I’m Bisexual—Deal With It

    No, I’m Not Gay, I’m Bisexual—Deal With It

    Freelance sex and relationships journalist and editor Bobby Box recently posted on the Logo TV blog NewNowNext a welcome Opion piece on being bisexual.

    No, I’m Not Gay, I’m Bisexual—Deal With It on NewNowNext

    As many who've written about coming out as bi have noted in the past, Bobby shares his frustrattion at the lack of support, recognition or acceptance that his bisexuality is real from gay friends. It ain't a stepping stone to being gay, fellas.

    " men love to label—and sub-label—each other. The distinctions are even programmed into gay dating apps: top or bottom, masc or fem, bear or twink. Labels are powerful and ubiquitous. They unite and divide."

    Read the full article on the NewNowNext blog.


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  2. FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    The breathtakingly sensuous, and frankly hot, art of Octave Tassaert

    Thanks to @babeland_toys posting of his breathtakingly sensuous "La Femme Damnee" ("The Cursed Woman") meet Parisian painter, Nicolas François Octave Tassaert. 

    La Femme Damnee - Octave Tassaert

    La Femme Damnee - Octave Tassaert

    Some basic background expediently delivered via Wikipedia, because it's really all about the art:

    Octave Tassaert (Paris, 26 July 1800 – Paris, 24 April 1874) was a French painter of portraits and genre, religious, historical and allegorical paintings, as well as a lithographer and engraver. He was the grandson of the sculptor Jean-Pierre-Antoine Tassaert.

    Unknown - Octave Tassaert

    Unknown - Octave Tassaert

    Octave's first artistic training came from his father Jean-Joseph-François Tassaert and his older brother Paul before he was apprenticed to the engraver Alexis-François Girard. Next, he studied at the École des Beaux-Arts (1817–25) from 1817 through 1825, under Guillaume Guillon-Lethière, but never won the school's Prix de Rome.

    La Femme Se Couchant - Octave Tassaert

    La Femme Se Coucher - Octave Tassaert

    Winning popular but not critical success, his works showing poor people's lives were felt melodramatic by critics but acclaimed by the public. His submission to the 1855 World Exhibition was well received by the critics, but Octave ceased to exhibit after the 1857 Salon, withdrawing more and more from the formal art world.

    L'enelevement de Europe - Octave Tassaert

     L'Enlevement d'Europe - Octave Tassaert

    Collectors of his works included Alfred Bruyas and Alexandre Dumas, fils, but in 1863 Octave stopped painting altogether and tried to become a poet (though none of his works are extant), selling all his remaining paintings to the dealer Père Martin. He declined into alcoholism, damaging his eyesight (he was treated at Montpellier in 1865, during which time he stayed with Bruyas) and finally committing suicide by inhaling coal gas[ in 1874.

    Unknown - Octave Tassaert

    Unknown - Octave Tassaert

    OK, so enough history. Enjoy the art, especiailly "The Cursed Woman"--one has to agree with the Babeland Instagram comment, "She look like she doin' fine."!

    As a bonus, two extra untitled paintings attributed to Tassaert are a bit randier than the above, but in the spirit of enthusiastic sex, voila!

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  3. H.I.V. Is Reported Cured in a Second Patient – New York Times

    H.I.V. Is Reported Cured in a Second Patient – New York Times

    Interesting, encouraging news from today's New York Times on HIV cure reasearch.

    H.I.V. Is Reported Cured in a Second Patient, a Milestone in the Global AIDS Epidemic - NY TimesRead the full article on the New York Times website.



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  4. Let’s Get Real About Sex Without Condoms

    Let’s Get Real About Sex Without Condoms

    Gay dating app Hornet recently posted an article on their Stories blog about the work being done by HIV information organization Avert to address the stigma surrounding the choice whether or not to have condomless sex.

    Hornet Stories: Let’s Get Real About Sex Without Condoms

    From Hornet's Senior Health Innovation Strategist Alex Garner:

    Sex without condoms is as old as creation, yet among gay men it remains a controversial topic, 40 years into the HIV epidemic. It’s refreshing that Avert, a long-standing HIV organization committed to providing quality information about HIV, has produced some terrific content around this topic.

    Avert created a thought-provoking video entitled “Gay Health: Getting Real About Sex Without a Condom.” Their efforts are grounded in the belief that “If we want to promote sexual health we need to help people understand their HIV prevention options not judge their choices.” The video simply and easily breaks down the issue and encourages people to engage in conversation around the topic of sex without condoms. Check out the video below.

    In addition to the video, Avert also conducted podcast interviews with writers and activists...

    Read the full story on and then hop back to the Stories homepage to check out more from one of the best gay blogs on the internet.



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  5. Buck Angel Asks "Are We Defined by Our Genitals?"

    Buck Angel Asks "Are We Defined by Our Genitals?"

    Armed with ur eye/pants-popping “FUN BOY PACKER” sex toy, trans activist Buck Angel says: We have options!

    The utterly amazing, sculptural, spongy, and sexy Fun Boy Packer is the newest product to be released from the Buck Angel® FTM Line of sex toys by Perfect Fit Brand.

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    Designed in collaboration by transsexual activist Buck Angel and CEO Steve Callow, the Fun Boy follows the fall 2016 release of the Buck-Off™ Buck Angel® FTM Stroker for trans men and the similar, but tighter, Kiss-X released earlier this year.

    Video: Buck Angel and Steve Callow introduce the Kiss-X and Fun Boy Packer (at about 2:30).

    More than just a packer (fake penis to be worn under clothing) and more than just a toy, the Fun Boy is an exciting gender-neutral accessory that can be worn in a variety of imaginative ways.

    Fun Boy Packer 6.5 Inch Model

    “Are we really defined by our genitals?" asks Buck Angel discussing the Fun Boy. "I myself am not defined by my genitals and love that I can choose if I want to wear my dick today or if I just want to be with my pussy. The Fun Boy permits us to play with gender fluidity. Your genitals should be a part of self-expression not depression!"

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  6. A Hilarious interview with Gay Adult Superstar and Total Cut-Up, Rafael Alencar

    A Hilarious interview with Gay Adult Superstar and Total Cut-Up, Rafael Alencar

    You have GOT to watch this just posted absolutely hilarious interview with gay porn superstar Rafael Alencar.

    Fans know the man has a sense of humor, but you really get to see it in, um, full swing, in this interview.

    Far too often we see an insanely sexy guy, begin to fantasize, only to have it all go flaccid the second he opens his mouth and we realize he zero sense of humor. Sexy bod? Great. Sharp, silly sense of humor? Fun. But it’s the combo of the two that makes most guys swoon.

    Raphael Alencar by Joe Oppedisano

    The best photo ever taken of Raphael Alencar, by Joe Oppedisano @joeoppedisano

    Excerpted from the press release:

    Amateur, fetish and porn star clip site IWantClips Ambassador Marc MacNamara has released an exclusive interview with gay adult superstar Rafael Alencar where he officially announces his retirement from porn.

    “Rafael is at the core an amazing human being. He is a smart businessman, but what most people don't know is that he is witty, quick and funny as shit, says MacNamara. "He has experienced more of this industry than anyone I can think of,” MacNamara said. “I learn from him every time he manages to formulate a sentence. This interview really shows off who he is and what he reveals will no doubt shock people.”

    Alencar, who is known for his large manhood and acclaimed on-screen performances, announces his retirement from porn as well as discusses his career and life in a compelling interview with the acclaimed filmmaker as part of his new interview series “NSFW With Marc MacNamara.” The series is expected to grow exponentially over the years with regular interview releases.

    A post shared by Marc MacNamara (@marcmacnamara) on

    In the insightful interview, Rafael expresses he is grateful for his time in porn and the success he has achieved, but feels it is time for him to move on. 

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  7. FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    The erotic, kinky, and beautiful enema art of the mysterious "Julie Delacourt"

    A fortuitous stumble down a slipperly Google path, thanks to a tip on the Twitter feed of NYC dominatix @LyraLethe, dropped us smack in the middle of a treasure trove of gourgeous, kinky, erotic art. Very FKIN (A)rt Friday!

    Erotic art by Julie Delacourt

    Meet the artist "Julie Delacourt," in quotes because it is a presumed alias, according to a post on Dangerous Minds, which may belong to Richard Hegemann—a German artist who also worked under the names A. Hegemann, A. Hegener and P. Rollmann. Hegemann. Another alias that comes up is Gaggleman.

    Erotic art by Julie Delacourt

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  8. What Are The Benefits Of Using Sex Toys With A Partner?

    What Are The Benefits Of Using Sex Toys With A Partner?

    "If I wear a cock ring and my partner responds in a way that is unexpected (like they really like it), do I question my own abilities? Well, would you question your ability to run faster and longer with a good pair of sneakers instead of bare feet?...Guys who have already gone past this hurdle actually have another set of tricks up their sleeve. They know that sex toys can add to the experience."

    Bustle Image

    That's Perfect Brand CEO Steve Callow as he drops some wisdom and reassurance to those considering bringing sex toys into their relationships in the recent article, "What Are The Benefits Of Using Sex Toys With A Partner? Women Talk About How Their Relationships Have Changed".

    Read the full article on


    #bustle #perfectfitbrand #sextoys

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  9. 7 Totally Amazing Valentine’s Day Gifts for Gay Men - Manchic

    7 Totally Amazing Valentine’s Day Gifts for Gay Men - Manchic

    Just a quick post to thank Jorge Gallegos eorge and Chel Wardell at for including our newest toy, the Perfect Fit Masturbator on his classy blog.

    Love the "vase", but, hey, that masturbator's so classy, who can blame him?

    Check out "7 Totally Amazing Valentine’s Day Gifts for Gay Men" and get shopping.

    You can pick up a Perfect Fit Masturbator at Mr. S. Leather or right here on our website.

    Happy Valenines Day!

    And thanks again to @manchic and @chelwardellphoto

    The Perfect Fit Male Masturbator w/ GripsThe Perfect Fit Male Masturbator

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  10. FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    18th Century Ottoman Art depicts Boy-Beloveds in a world before "homosexuality" was a thing

    Though depctions avaiable online are rare, in the ancient or even not-so-ancient pre-Christian Muslim society of 18th century Turkey, homosexual love was no big deal.

    Two Erotic Scenes by Abdullah Bukhari

    In a fascinating article titled "What Ottoman erotica teaches us about sexual pluralism" found on,  İrvin Cemil Schick discusses how in Turkey, as well as much of the Muslim world prior to the tyranny of Christianity, no one was freaking out over homosexual sex. 

    For one thing, there was no term for "homosexuality," until 1868. Wasn't even conceptualized as odd or negative. Same sex relationships were merely viewed in pre-modern times as merely a predilection or practice. Sexual relationships where not divided by gay or straight, but by penetrated or penetrator.

    Illustration by Abdullah Bukhari

    He writes:

    "Although there is no doubt that the vocabulary extracted thus far is not exhaustive, some clear patterns have emerged. In particular, it indicates that one can speak of three genders and two sexualities. First, rather than a male/female dichotomy, sources clearly view men, women and boys as three distinct genders. Indeed, boys are not deemed ‘feminine’, nor are they mere substitutes for women; while they do share certain characteristics with them, such as the absence of facial hair, boys are clearly considered a separate gender. Furthermore, since they grow up to be men, gender is fluid and, in a sense, every adult man is ‘transgender’, having once been a boy. 

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