1. "Can Masturbation Help Prevent COVID-19?"

    "Can Masturbation Help Prevent COVID-19?"

    A welcome bit of levity and good news in the face of COVID-19 from Advocate writer Donald Padgett. Screenshot below. Read the post on

    Teaser photo above/left is of the Perfect Fit Male Masturbator. See our full range of masturbators from the Buck-Off™ FTM stroker, to the ROCCO™ Jack Daddy to the new Fat Boy extender/strokers here.

    Advocate Masturbation post

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  2. FKIN (A)rt Friday

    FKIN (A)rt Friday

    For this edition of FKIN (A)rt Friday, meet New York City photographer Jason Jackson. He’s given us a very generous interview about his work, specifically, his erotic, sensual, and intimate ongoing series, “THE EROTIESE PROJECT.”

    On his website, Jason describes “THE EROTIESE PROJECT” as “a photographic journey that focuses on capturing the male form in unique and authentic ways that both reinforce and challenge our ideas of masculinity. My intention when shooting the male form has always been to create an emotionally driven narrative. It's not always about looking for a "naked body". My intent is to find that balance between product, process and relationship while simultaneously making the viewer think about the changing societal construct of masculinity."

    THE EROTIESE PROJECT, Jason Jackson Imags

    THE EROTIESE PROJECT, Jason Jackson Imags

    THE EROTIESE PROJECT, Jason Jackson Imags

    What made you pick up the camera?

    Interestingly enough I hated the camera as a child. My mom was always taking pictures and I found it annoying. It interrupted my play time. As I approached my 20’s and I started to explore more of the world I found that I wanted to capture the things I saw. It never occurred to me to do it professionally or with a broader intent until later. I think the desire to pick up the camera with more specific intent and artistry these last 5 years was a combination of maturity and my understanding of the significance of what I saw in the world and how I interpreted it.  

    For the purposes of consumer consumption I separate my work into 2 categories. The one that has gained more social media attention is THE EROTIESE PROJECT which focuses on capturing the male form in unique and authentic ways that both reinforce and challenge our ideas of masculinity. 

    My intention when shooting the male form has always been to create an emotionally driven narrative. It's not always about looking for a "naked body”, but admittedly the nudity is sometimes part of the message.

    Your subjects include an admirable variety of men. It’s quite a candy box. How do you find or select your models?

    Yes, it’s a smorgasbord. That “model” word has so many negative connotations. Whether it’s a commissioned job or a man I see and intentionally want to include in my projects I see them as subjects more than models. A lot of the men contact me on Instagram or through my website or reach out because of work I have done with someone they personally know. 

    THE EROTIESE PROJECT, Jason Jackson Imags

    THE EROTIESE PROJECT, Jason Jackson Imags

    Looking at just a fistful of your Instagram photos of Scotty Don’t @flyingmonkeycirque, Eli @eliboridomi, Michael Wright @mikestouch, Damian Dragon @damianxdragon and couple Thomas and Jefferson one is struck by the honest masculinity exuded in all the images. You’ve thankfully­–and one suspects, very consciously–swerved opposite of the boring gym bro, body worship cliché. Clearly, that approach never appealed to you in the first place I

    My selection is somewhat intentional. I am very conscious of making sure that all men are represented. They can be smooth or hairy, bearded or baby-faced. Everyone loves the fit and muscular man, the “gym bro.”  It’s visual fantasy. We all perpetuate that and I love to shoot them, but I also find the man with flaws and quirks so interesting. I love to shoot men that are not the editorial standard of beauty. They come to the table with so much depth and are so much more open to being vulnerable and willing to push beyond their comfort zone. Come to me with some extra weight on your frame, or scars, or a not so perfect ass. That’s the real world.

    I also make a deliberate decision to include men of color in my work. I LOVE MELANIN! Black, Latino, Asian, Indian, Middle Eastern. Those colors and shades put a whole other level of variety and experience and expression in front of my camera. I try to steer away from sites that have no representation of men with darker brown skin. In this day and age with the level of accessibility to images and media if there are no brown people on your page or site, I have to believe its intentional. Interestingly enough when starting out I found it harder to find men of color who were comfortable with expressing themselves in this type of medium. I think a lot of that has to do with cultural norms and ideas about male expression/exposure, but that could be a whole other topic.

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  3. Straight Woman + Queer Sex Party?

    Straight Woman + Queer Sex Party?

    Two recent posts, one on Slate by columnist Rich Juzwiak and the other on Vice by writer Harron Walker, advise women thirsting for bi dick on whether it's cool to cruise gay/queer men for satisfaction.

    Each dispense wisdom worth reading and discussing, with Walker's column picking up on the conversation started by Juzwiak.

    Screenshots of both and links below. Follow both on social media for more from two of the best writers on all things queer out there.

    I’m a Heterosexual Woman Who’s Politically Opposed to Heterosexuality - Slate

    "I’m a Heterosexual Woman Who’s Politically Opposed to Heterosexuality. Who do I date?" by Rich Juzwiak on Slate. Follow Rich on Twitter @RichJuz

    So, You're a Straight Woman Who Wants to Pick Up Bi Men - Vice

    "So, You're a Straight Woman Who Wants to Pick Up Bi Men" by Harron Walker on Vice. Follow Harron on Twitter @HarronWawker



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  4. Erotic Intent Q+A: Sex Educator Elle Chase

    Erotic Intent Q+A: Sex Educator Elle Chase

    In what we hope will be a regular habit, we present the very first Erotic Intent Q&A. Appropriately, it’s with certified sex educator, author, and body-acceptance and pleasure advocate, Elle Chase.

    Elle Chase

    Elle is considered a powerful thought leader and a key influencer in the sexual health community, most notably for her respected voice in the body acceptance/body neutrality movement.

    She is also the Founder and serves as the Director of Education at the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education, has been featured in major media from NBC’s The Today Show, ABC’s Nightline, The New York Times, to Teen Vogue, The Daily Beast, Cosmopolitan and loads of others, and is a sought-after expert for some of the world’s highest-rated podcasts and radio shows including; Sex with Emily, Savage Lovecast with Dan Savage, Sex Out Loud, and Loveline. Read her full bio here.

    Clearly, this woman knows what she’s talking about. She’s also fun. We discovered Elle thanks to her beautifully explicit, illustrated groundbreaking, how-to book, “Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life” (Quarto Publishing/Fair Winds Press).

    Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase

    Above: "Curvy Girls Sex" by Elle Chase (Quarto Publishing/Fair Winds Press).

    A first of its kind, reviews of “Curvy Girl Sex” were predictably positive and many point out that much of the advice in the book is applicable regardless of body size.

    Frankly, Elle's super-sex positive energy is contagious. Even if you aren't a "curvy girl," even if you are a man, even a gay man, you might consider reading her book just to be more enlightened about body positivity, female sexuality and sexuality in general.

    We were curious about the life of a sex educator, and luckily Elle obliged us by answering a brief Q&A. But first, by way of introduction, we wanted to share the preface from “Curvy Girl Sex,” as is an insightful, personal introduction to Elle and also her book.

    Take it away, Elle!

    The Preface to "Curvy Girl Sex"

    I became a sex educator and body acceptance advocate by accident. Fresh out of a seven-year marriage where there was barely any sex, I craved passion—which I saw on TV and movies, but never experienced in my own life. Never feeling desirable, sexy, or worthy of sexual plea-sure, I had always felt neuter, unconnected to my body and convinced that sex and the joys that came with a good sex life were for other people, not me.

    So after I left my husband, I found myself at a cross-roads. I was desperate for passion, single, overweight, and completely unequipped with the tools to date successfully or to have passionate, confident sex without caring about how fat I was. I longed to feel someone crave me. But who could feel passion for a fat chick, with cellulite, scars, florescent-white skin, and crooked teeth? People like me didn’t experience high-adrenaline, fervent, ardent love affairs. I had to be realistic, and I had to accept that I was never going to be the object of the desire and salacious abandon that I craved. I had to settle for what I could find and somehow make it work.

    But I was wrong. Oh boy, was I wrong.

    Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase

    Above: Chapter 6 opening spread of "Curvy Girl Sex"

    I had nothing to lose, so I started dating online. Sure, I got rejected just like everyone does, but what I found was that all types of men were interested in me. Some of them had a penchant for my body type, some men didn’t care about body type, and some men found the whole package attractive. This was a revolutionary concept to me. I didn’t expect to sleep with or date such a variety of fascinating, smart, and passionate men—of all shapes and sizes. I dated “traditionally good-looking” actors, a super-sexy masseur, a politician, a nerdy techie, and a dashing photographer, to name a few. Most of these men were younger than me, and not only were all of them physically and personally different but they were also all attracted to me regardless of my weight and flaws. My belief that I was inherently undesirable quickly evaporated.

    I realized that not only was I attracted to all types of men—tall, short, fat, skinny, long-haired, bald, scarred, smooth, muscled, soft—but that all these men were attract-ed to me. If this was true in my life, I couldn’t be the only one. This realization gave me the germ of self-confidence that I needed to further explore and experience the sexual passion I so desired and, in a short time, got. I realized that my judgment that I was unattractive and undesirable wasn’t based in reality. It was a verdict I came to subconsciously over a lifetime of feedback and opinions gathered from mean girls at school, the media, and some really poor choices in men. The truth was I was sexy as hell as long as I didn’t pay attention to my old misconceptions and instead focused on enjoying myself, which included discovering what (and who) made me feel sensual and sexy, how to identify it in my body, the ways I feel chemistry with some-one, and how to recognize when they were feeling it, too.

    Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase

    Above: The handy organizer icons, provided in the book make it easy to see which sex acts and positions are right for you.

    During this time, I recognized that the negative feelings I had toward my body and my sexual desirability was a social construct thrust upon me—one that I unwittingly and subconsciously took part in. I finally understand that this construct—that fat women aren’t sexy, or a woman must wear heels and flirty dresses, she must bat her eyes and let her date determine her dateability—was a lie. I was free. I wanted all women to know this fact. I wanted all women to know and feel confident that we are all sexy, and it has nothing to do with flat abs or lustrous hair, but everything to do with how sexy we feel and how connected we are to our sexuality.

    This truth was the impetus for this book. You can’t enjoy sex if you’re constantly worrying about whether you’re sexy enough for your partner. You can’t enjoy sex when you are thinking about how to do it while looking elegant or hiding your rolls. You can’t enjoy sex if your mind is wandering and you’re not concentrating on your partner’s pleasure and your own. This is more than a book of sex positions. I hope that this book will show you how to own and accept your body the way it is right now . . . and then move on and have a fulfilling sex life.

    I hope that in some way this book will empower you to not let anything get in the way of improving your sex life. Whether you learn a new position or two, come away with a better understanding of your pleasure or anatomy, or go out and buy your first sex toy, I’ll call that a success. Know that you deserve pleasure and it’s never too late to find it.

    And now our Q&A with Elle...

    According the Preface, you became a sex educator after your marriage ended. How does one become a sex educator? School? Online classes?

    Yes! I did a lot of reading and then went through the San Francisco Sex Information Sex Educator Training Program in  … where else, San Francisco.

    Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase

    Above: A typical spread from "Curvy Girl Sex."

    How did you gather all the info and advice in the book? 

    The book is really autobiographical. I created a class called “Big, Beautiful Sex” that I had been teaching and really just expanded on it and then added 101 positions … which I tried out myself!

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  5. Boss Talk: Intellectual Property Theft in the Sex Toy Biz

    Boss Talk: Intellectual Property Theft in the Sex Toy Biz

    Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow asks, "Why do we tolerate it?"

    Perfect Fit Brand CEO, innovator and inventor Steve Callow discusses how intellectual property theft in the sex toy biz, and wonders why is it so tollerated.

    The following post by Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow first appeared as an Op-Ed column in the November 2019 XBIZ Premiere, an adult novelty (sex toy)industry trade. Titled, "Protecting Innovation: Why Is Intellectual Property Theft Tollerated?" it is essentially "part 1" of a two-part op-ed on protecting intellectual property in the adult novelty business. The follow-up piece, "Supporting Innovation: Could Creating an Innovation Council Protect Intellectual Property?" appeared in the December 201XBIZ Premiere. You can read it on Erotic Intent here.

    In an effort to continue to share insights into the sex toy biz, we thought we’d share an edited version here on the Perfect Fit Brand blog, Erotic Intent.

    XBIZ Nov 2019 Steve Callow Op-Ed

    "Protecting Innovation: Why Is Intellectual Property Theft Tollerated?" by Perfect Fit Brand CEO and inventor, Steve Callow.

    For those who know me, you’ll already know I have strong feelings on the subject of Intellectual Property.  As innovators, we are constantly finding our best ideas, whether or not we have protected the Intellectual Property (IP) with patents or not, copied by other manufacturers.  This can happen shamelessly, where there isn’t even a difference in the color of the product, it is an exact copy. This is outright theft of someone else’s design. This is very distressing for the many innovators that are smaller companies, like mine. Lost revenues caused by stolen Intellectual Property has a direct effect on the industry’s ability to grow. The companies that create dupes often rob sales from the innovators, creating an endless cycle of innovation and theft.

    To understand the true impact of a loss in revenue, you have to assess the value of time and cost that it takes to develop a radical, game-changing product. The life cycle of product design and development for a new innovation takes, on average, a two-year minimum.  For me, I’ve even hired companies to conduct focus groups for some of our innovations and in one case this added two additional years to the development cycle. Every development starts with a “break-through” idea. This drives new thinking on how to create a product based on a single thought. Before an initial design is made, significant research needs to be completed in order to understand the parameters and key elements of the project. The research process alone can take six months to over a year’s time.

    Once you have enough background information to design the product, you begin drawing it. The process of designing, drawing and creating a prototype of a new idea often takes six months. After executing the idea, it still needs to be tested, adding an additional few months. This cycle, an average of eight months in total, is almost always done twice. The first round is theorizing and creating an initial prototype. The second is the development of a fully functional prototype that when tested, proves the concept. If all goes well, the next stage is production.

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  6. Catching up with Cazwell...Videos

    Catching up with Cazwell...Videos

    If you don't know (really?!) gay rapper Cazwell, we're getting you up (!) to speed. Below, a slew of fave videos from Cazwell including the moset recent and thirsty (partched is more like it!) "Duo Lingo" + "Get Into It," "I Seen Beyonce at Burger King," and his first ever, "Is it All Over My Face." Many feature the glam transexual superstar, Amanda Lepore. More Cazwell at and @cazwellofficial

    Duo Lingo

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  7. Rachael McCoy of Inspiring Sexuality Gleefully Reviews the Fat Boy Sport

    Rachael McCoy of Inspiring Sexuality Gleefully Reviews the Fat Boy Sport

    A wee throwback for ya.

    One of our favorite video reviews, check out this one for the Fat Boy Sport by award winning UK-based sex & relationship coach, Rachael McCoy (below) of Inspiring Sexuality

    Rachael McCoy of Inspiring Sexuality at XBIZ 2016 UK

    About the Fat Boy Sport, Rachael says,

    “We both actually loved it!”  

    “Even though it was a bit naughty that my man’s cock was so massive, it felt really, really good!”  

    "All in all I think this a great product and it might not be something that you’d originally go for,  but I really enjoyed it, so I highly recommend."

    In additional to being fun to use with your partner, Rachael, being the thorough and inquisitive reviewer that she is, discovered to her pleasure that the Fat Boy Sport is great solo!

    Ladies, watch the video to learn how Rachael turned the Fat Boy Sport into a masturbator that “wasn’t like the standard vibrator or a big hard thing, it has a soft squidgy texture, which made you feel full, which was a completely different sensation, which I really liked.”

    For more info and to purchase the Fat Boy Sport click here or go to, click the dropdown menua and select Fat Boy Extenders.


    @Rachael_ISxpert #rachaelmccoy #inspiringsexuality #sextoys #perfectfitbrand

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  8. Boss Talk: Cock Ring 101 from CEO Steve Callow

    Boss Talk: Cock Ring 101 from CEO Steve Callow

    Cock Rings. So Many Cock Rings.

    Perfect Fit Brand CEO and Cock Ring Innovator Steve Callow is here to help with a little Cock Ring 101

    The following post by Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow first appeared as an Op-Ed column in the June 2019 issue of adult novelty industry trade XBIZ Premiere. To give you a peek inside the sex toy biz, we thought we’d share an edited version here on the Perfect Fit Brand blog, Erotic Intent.

    Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow and Cock Rings in XBIZ Premiere June 2019

    Most guys, be they cock ring virgins or sling-hopping enthusiasts, find shopping for cock rings, like shopping for almost anything these days, an overwhelming experience due to too much choice. There are hundreds of cock rings in myriad shapes, sizes, materials and textures to choose from. How does one choose? As a designer of cock rings, I’m here to give you a break down and explain the various types of cock rings and hopefully help you find one that’s a perfect fit for you.

    Cock rings have come a long ways from the old days of the glorified rubber band and leather snap ring. As a designer, I break cock rings out into several categories, but first let’s go over the two different ways cock rings can be worn: around the base of the shaft above the scrotum or behind the scrotum.

    Cruiser Rings

    Above: The Cruiser Ring by Perfect Fit Brand

    Rings worn around just the shaft or penis, referred to “shaft rings” from this point on in this article, are generally a stretchy and meant to be worn around the penis shaft. There are also fitted shaft rings, purchased in a specific size, and thus, though sized, should also offer enough stretch to remove it should it become too tight once the penis is erect. (More on this below.) In my experience designing and selling cock rings, shaft rings seem to be most popular with men with very large or long penises, but not so much for the majority of guys shopping for cock rings.

    Typically, most men wear the cock ring behind the scrotum. This allows for much more flexibility in sizing, security (stays in place), and for the rings to not interfere with sex. To clarify the latter, a shaft ring can be cumbersome because, due to the location of the scrotum–which is not behind the penis, but runs up the shaft under the penis–it can’t be worn at the base of the penis.

    Xact-Fit 3 Ring Kits

    Above: The Xact-Fit 3 Ring Kit by Perfect Fit Brand. 3 fitted rings.

    Most rings on the market today are sized to be the more traditional style worn behind the penis and scrotum (hereafter referred to as a “cock ring”) and can be broken down into four categories: Fitted rings, stretchy rings, torso fitted rings (one of my inventions), and adjustable restrictive rings. Those are the basic styles, but there are many variations, including combination cock ring/ball stretchers, and cock ring/butt plugs, etc., but for this post, let’s focus on the basic cock ring and the various design factors to consider when shopping for one.

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  9. Interview with a Dominatrix

    Interview with a Dominatrix

    Meet Domina Lyra, transatlantic Dionysian priestess, artist and sadomasochist

    All photos courtesy of Lyra Lethe.

    Lyra Lethe

    Last October at the Sex Expo at the Brooklyn Expo Center there was a constant parade of interesting people of every size, color, age, and interest. From those who didn't know a cockring from a scrunchie to those who knew exactly what time it was.

    One of the most interesting people to swing by the Perfect Fit Brand table was New York based transatlantic dominatrix, Lyra Lethe, who snapped up (literally) one of our Zoro™ one-piece strap-on dildos and left her calling card.

    In going through cards and checking out Instagram accounts the next day, it was clear that this was one fascinating woman. So, herewith, an interview with Mistress Lyra Lethe.

    Domina Lyra

    First question: What shall I call you in the article? Lyra Lethe? Domina Lyra? And I assume the first is a pseudonym, so what’s the story behind it?

    You may call me either, and I'm glad you asked about my name—I don't get that question often. I came up with it before I can remember to represent a dark, heroic aspect of myself that I dreamed of becoming. Lyra is the harp created by the god Hermes and given to Orpheus, who played so beautifully that gods wept, monsters were lulled to sleep, and he was allowed to make a rare journey to the underworld and back. After he died, having been torn apart by maenads, his lyre was placed in the night sky for eternity. Lethe is the river of forgetfulness, which flows through Hypnos' cave in Hades. Most of the dead drink its water and lose the memories of their past lives, but the few who resist and remember their true origins have a chance to become divine.

    Lyra Lethe

    Why did you become a dominatrix?

    It began with a longing for another realm. I have always been drawn to power play, transgression and mystery. From early on, I remember searching for a door to the otherworld, certain that I was destined for a more adventurous existence. When I first had access to the internet, I joined occult forums and saw references to dominatrices and sadomasochistic rituals.

    In college, a boy began addressing me as “Mistress” without explanation and another, “Your Excellency”. I started talking to a lifestyle domme from one of my forums. I was studying ancient texts and she was interested in what I was reading and writing. She encouraged me to explore BDSM, but I was pursuing other things and it would be years before I did. Still, it remained a strong interest and I found myself thinking about it often. I admired that world from afar and I finally came to it when I was ready.

    I became a dominatrix because there could be no other way; it is the fullest expression of who I am in all my aspects. I am an artist, a scholar, a poet, and a priestess. I am a tormentress and healer, captor and liberator, avenger and protector, judge and absolver, devil and god I can finally access and guide others through the other realms that have always called me. I believe it was fate.

    @LyraLethe Instagram

    How did you learn the ropes (pun intended)?

    I first started exploring when I was living in Chicago, which had a very welcoming BDSM community. I attended munches and play parties and learned as a switch. The first time I set foot in a dungeon, it was noted that I seemed right at home in the leather swing. And I jumped right in, submitting to fire, rope, and knife play. For me, the experience of submission was initiatory. Both the positive and negative experiences I had during that time taught me lessons about communication, consent, trust, and compassion that have stayed with me as a domme. Actually, rope bondage is among my weakest skills, not for lack of trying but because I love it so much I have always ended up in it. Some of my first friends in the scene were riggers who suspended me and created meditative puzzles for me to escape.

    During graduate school, I started working under the instruction of a professional Mistress and learned by doing sessions with her until I was ready to develop my own practice. I have been fortunate enough to study with one of my most-admired dominatrices, Simone Justice, and to attend DomCon where I took classes with other such legends. I continue to learn all the time through the process of sessioning and forming relationships with those who submit to me.

    Domina Lyra

    You clearly enjoy the work. Do you consider it work? What do you get out of it other than gifts and cash? Or does that matter? Would you do it for free? 

    I enjoy what I do very much and it is absolutely work. Domination is in my nature and it will always be part of my life. I have invested a great deal into it, financially and emotionally, and making it my profession allows me to continue to do so. The expenses—which include specialized equipment, wardrobe, advertising, travel, and dungeon rental—are high, and I devote a great deal of time and energy each week to administrative work as well as to planning each session. I pay self-employment taxes and am responsible for my own insurance, retirement plan, etc. while navigating all the uncertainty of working under criminalization and increasing censorship.

    That said, I am privileged enough to be selective in whom I engage with, and I feel fulfilled by my work on numerous levels, in the ways that I continue to grow and help others grow. I do have personal devotees and subs who serve me beyond the limits of a traditional session, for example by performing labor in my studio or serving as creative muses. The relationships I have formed vary but transcend transactional exchange and even BDSM.

    Domina Lyra

    From checking out your social media, you appear to travel often to London. Do you also practice (is that the word?) in London as well as New York?

    Yes, I travel to London several times a year. London has a great BDSM scene and I am cultivating a following there and elsewhere in Europe.

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  10. WATCH: Perfect Fit Brand is Executive Producer of New Baby Yors Video

    WATCH: Perfect Fit Brand is Executive Producer of New Baby Yors Video

    Photography: Rachel Brennecke

    Something different. Perfect Fit Brand, along with Marco Palou and Chronos Cinema and Prose Productions, is the Executive Producer of "Bad Influence," the newest video by queer New York City artist Baby Yors.

    Not only are we nicely featured in the credits, but the video features a bevy of Perfect Fit Brand toys. Pretty cool.

    Baby Yors by Rachel Brennecke

    Beautifully lit, shot and we hope, properly pampered, making a fistful of cameo appearances were our Amour Tug Lock and Ribbed Ring (below), Cock Armour, Play Zone Kit, and Rook Plug. 

    Baby Yors Perfect Fit Brand Cock Armour Tug Ribbed Ring

    More about the video in this story on, which also gave Perfect Fit Brand a nice...plug. Read more about the fascinating Argentinian Baby Yors here.

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